ok that helped a lot things are becoming clearer thank you much!!!!!!
Stuart that post has established a clearer conversation and a baseline for me to finalize this plan
thank you and xSpace for your support & input it is greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Problem is life is eating into my budget, I'm going to have to cut corners and hope for best.
I'm pretty bummed I took the existing layer of drywall I had up on the ceiling down cause it seems at this point, I got middle leaf and 3rd leaf effect no matter what and that I wasted a little bit of money (oh well) cause the drywall that was up there was already serving a purpose as my better than nothing middle leaf. So I guess I got to put a layer back up on the ceiling that I took down great....
I can only afford one layer of 5/8ths drywall (for middle leaf) up on ceiling above joist (or below the joist where it was

is easier and at this point I don’t see how it could make a big difference if I put it above or below joist.
I can’t afford to beef up any outer walls.
It looks like I got to go with 3 layers of drywall on inner leafs and one layer of green glue to compensate (hopefully) a little for all the compromises.
If my calculations are correct my ceiling height finished with treatment installed is going to be around 7’9” anything smaller is going to get claustrophobic real quick, so I can’t spare any more than 2” air-gap anywhere, as my room is getting too small to accommodate the vibe I need, so it looks like I’m going to have to live with some compromises (unless I can be convinced otherwise).
I am going to butyl caulk the hell out of everything though for sure (outer leaf/shell and inner leafs of course) unless someone tells me how buytl caulk is not as good as acoustic caulk for sealing.
I hope the following does not come out disrespectful in anyway as that is not my intention, this is just me kinda thinking out loud so bare with me.
In my mind I’m kinda going above and beyond already cause I have personally built a studio where the outer leaf was not sealed, we put up 3 layers of drywall for the inner leafs. No green glue anywhere, no backer rod and we used buytl to seal the inner leafs (yes there are plenty more details than that) and the isolation came out great (4 am full blast live rock band sounded like a faint TV on in next room from 10 feet away and never a single complaint). I'm not saying I'm right or I know what I'm talking about, just saying 3 years later after recent inspection the buytl seals are still solid, flexible, no cracks or holes and the seals do not seem compromised at all + the studio still has same great isolation as it did on day one. So this is my personal experience with Butyl for alternative to acoustic caulk and no backer rod.
At this point I’m already going over the budget and I’m looking at all any additional cost and asking myself are some of these things absolutely necessary etc…
I am going with green glue between on one layer of drywall for sure though (I need all the extra help I can get)!
I mean no disrespect at all its just I'm broke and I'm trying to be practical based on my personal experience, also trying to mix that with your guys expertise as I really appreciate you guys trying to help me do things right and get the best long lasting results. I may have to accept fact that I can’t afford to build a 60 + stc rated studio and be happy with hopefully 50 stc (or close) and deal with the kick drum and bass by not recording those two things past 9pm (as a work around). I'm pretty sure all others sounds will be a none issue and I could mix at 85db at anytime and not disturb anyone. Daytime sounds will drown out the kick and bass and shouldn’t be a problem until after 9pm when people are trying to sleep.
I truly appreciate all the input from you guys and I do need much more help to pull this all off as good as we can do it withing my dwindling budget.
I’m really trying to get to point where I have sorted out all the compromises and I except the plan and commit and build this thing. Any last feedback on the above info?
speech over sorry
AC plan coming soon you’re not going to like it lol
P.S yes I need vocal booth in bathroom this is not commercial studio just for my band (private) and we can live with blinds in vocal booth lol